Are these women beautiful? ARE they?
I want to talk about something, and I`m not even going to talk about it from a Christian standpoint– because that`s what you`d expect me to. It`s just something that`s on my mind all the time.
Aging well. Is it something we do for us, or for our families, or for our own dignity? Because I mean, you may have been a real Snazzy in your high school days, or whenever, but face it, we all get old.
(Trust me, it makes my day when Laila says, “Mommy!” when she sees my wedding picture. She sees me in that ancient picture?!?!)
I guess I want to think of words I feel when I see these women above– all in their 50s. (and not trying to pick on them, but beings they have agreed to star in a reality show, I am guessing they are up for gabbing grabs.)
Hard. Damaged. Plastic. Unstable. Insecure. Not comfortable. Selfish. Expensive. Hard. Lonely. Implanted. Brittle. Trying.
Yet, this, THIS is a picture *Hollywood* (I hate to say that, it sounds to “closed”) says is a “hot older women”. A cougar. A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN. A women who is powerful, in control, and can still attract a younger man.
(What? Gross.)
And just let me address the fact that when I am a grandma, I want to feel soft, smell like flowers and have lovely aged hands. I want my grandchildren to LOVE laying against me. I want them to feel safe at my house. I want them to think of my kitchen when the Tollhouse cookie commercial comes on.
I want that!
I want my husband to want to come home because he can lay on the couch at our house, and enjoy the sound of the whirring fan and a lemonade, as he rants to me about his nutso day. I won`t be blonde and gorgeous, but I will be safe. And warm. And secure.
Those are my plans.
Then, I came across this picture. (And it`s what compelled me to write this post in the first place.)
Don`t you just want them for your friends? For your mother? grandmother? wife? a neighbor? your kid`s schoolteacher?
Obviously, I don`t know who these 2 women are from Adam, but let me tell you the words I feel when I see them.
Warm. Sweet smelling. Happy. Fun. Safe. Secure. Clean. Full of LIFE. Attractively dressed. Age appropriate. Soft. Pretty skin. Beloved by someone. BEAUTIFUL.
Honestly, when I saw this picture, I just stared. To me, they were utterly gorgeous & breathtaking. You know why?
Because it`s a rare thing to see in our society. (I say society, NOT women I know. I am surrounded by lovely aging women!!) Women aging, that haven`t “given up” by doing either 1 of 2 things:
A) Looking drab– “I`m old”. (Old people are drab.)
Or. the other extreme.
B) I`m 60, looking 20. (And it`s not working for me.)
…
Why are we believing the lies?
Hoping by Monday to have music up and running. (I need my tech support to help me. =)
For those of you wondering.....I am switching over to Mixpod.com.
Have a Grand Weekend.
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Comments (12)
Love reading Jenny's blog! She never ceases to amaze me and make me laugh. I loved this post!
Jenny I couldn't agree with you more. I'm going with your plan too! Love life in all it's stages and let beauty come from the inside out :)
I Read this earlier! What a greaet read! Definatly worth reposting! @inanorchard - I love your last sentence, so very very true!
Yes! Great blog...us Jennys must think alike. My dear MIL, now with the Lord, was the kind of woman that she described. Always smelled good, had the softest cheeks, was so warm and welcoming, and full of spunk and life. My boys all said she was the BEST woman ever, and so beautiful. And she would say she had a "wrinkled old face"! We just saw the twinkling blue eyes. She is my role model!
thanks for this... i was flattered to be featured.
loved it then, love it now!
I just read this this morning on Jenny's site and loved it so, so much. I especially love the part about the husband coming home to safe and warm and secure. And all the rest of it too.
The closer I get to 40 the more I want to understand and be okay with aging--with grace.
And Liz! Your header is so cute.
I'm so glad you featured this! When I first read it I thought it was such a wonderful post, and linked to it on facebook, just because I thought other women needed to hear it!
Happy weekend to you! ♥
I loved this
Beautiful post, something we all need! I love reading Jenny's blog.
I love your header! She is adorable!!
i love jenny and her blog...and reading this post again here at liz's.
i am weary of this culture that continually reminds me of just exactly how i am not getting it right.
and grateful for a circle of friends, here and irl, that know about, celebrate and encourage the real deal.
the women in the second picture have a beauty that INVITES and welcomes!
not like the first one where it announces! and repels!
I love Jenny's blog and this was one of her best posts ever! So glad you featured it!
Amen!